In the world of tennis, there’s a lot of talk about what it means to have a “winning mentality.” Some associate it with masculine traits, others see it as unwavering self-confidence. Some believe it’s a matter of character—something you’re either born with or not. Others still think that coming from a disadvantaged background creates that hunger to succeed, the so-called “will to win” of champions.
These explanations tend to build a rigid, almost mythical idea of what a winning mentality is. As a result, tennis players may feel trapped by their origins: if they don’t match these predefined stories, they might think they’ll never become winners.
However, my experience working with many elite athletes—including 13 Olympic medalists—and what sports psychology tells us about top performers show a different, more realistic picture: one that’s practical, trainable, and within everyone’s reach. In this article, I want to share a few actionable guidelines that any tennis player can follow to improve their performance—always, of course, in relation to their technical level, physical condition, and style of play.
1. Have No Expectations—Just Do Your Best
Every player wants to win. But that thought should be pushed to the back of your mind. What truly matters is staying focused on the present—each serve, each return. You can’t control the outcome of a point, but you can control your effort. So focus only on your game. Then, after each rally, see whether your best was enough—or whether your opponent did better.
2. Be Patient: Tough Moments Will Come
Tennis is a game where the winner is the one who makes fewer mistakes. The goal isn’t perfection—it’s to make fewer errors than your opponent. Negative moments are part of every match. Believing they won’t come is unrealistic. When they do, don’t get angry or discouraged. Instead, stay patient and keep playing with focus.
3. Don’t Let the Score Dictate Your Emotions
Less experienced players—and many teenagers—often get excited when they play well and emotionally collapse when they lose points. This leads to emotional and behavioral instability. You should be your own biggest supporter on the court, not like those fans who cheer only when their team is winning and boo when it’s losing.
4. Manage Competitive Stress and Accept Your Fears
Many players are so afraid of their own fears that they make excuses: “I wasn’t feeling the ball today,” “My legs felt heavy,” “My opponent played the match of their life.” Girls, in particular, may be more emotionally reactive, getting pumped up or discouraged depending on how points go. The key difference between champions and others is the courage to face those fears and learn how to manage them.
5. Think About the Game
No matter your level, you need to have a clear idea of how you want to play. Even a simple plan like “run and get the ball back” is better than no plan at all. This is especially true for serving: “How can I put my opponent under pressure?” “What was I doing when I won those points?” You need both technical thoughts and motivational thoughts. They’re equally important.
In conclusion, the winning mentality isn’t magic, nor is it reserved for a select few. It’s a set of attitudes, thoughts, and behaviors that anyone can develop. Every tennis player has the chance to cultivate it—starting with one simple thing: focusing on what’s within their control.
