Today the problem with boys is that, unlike the girls, they do not know how to express the emotions and not talk about their problems. This difficulty is well expressed in these words: “I have a little sister who is 15 and my parents will pay a lot of more atention to her feelings, becuase when a girl is sad she’s not afraid to show it. And boys, when the moment comes to say something, they don’t even know how.” Ten years ago Rosalind Wiseman wrote a book about the girls’ problems.Today, after visiting hundreds of middle and high schools, Wiseman found that the parents aren’t the only one need need some guidance also their boys need some guidance, in an era where the lines are blurred between the private and public, between dating and hooking up, and sometimes between “yes” and “no.” So she wrote The Guide: For Guys which you can download for free as an e-book here.
Not surprisingly, in her talks with teens, Wiseman found that one of the most popular topics was the thorny social and ethical dynamics of hookups. So, based on these conversations, she created the rules of dibs for boys, or how to pursue girls without wrecking friendships, which you can read here in an exclusive excerpt from The Guide.
Read more: Hook-Ups, Friendships and the New Rules of ‘Dibs’ for Teen Boys | TIME.com http://healthland.time.com/2013/11/21/hook-ups-friendships-and-the-new-rules-of-dibs-for-teen-boys/#ixzz2m8ynp268
