I often recognize the coach desire to be in the children world with a warmhearted and sympathetic style. I appreciate this approach but I have to remember that inevitably to lead the children in their path, in life or sport, it needs patient and expertise accompanied by serious efforts to understand their world and guide them in learning. My job, as a sports psychologist, is also to facilitate to the coaches to get in in the children universe, turning my skills in psychological tips, practical and easily accessible. To do that, this time, I decided to borrow a set of guidelines that the famous educator and psychiatrist Susan Isaacs suggests moms and dads, but it fits also to youth coaches, forgetting, too often, the small details of this relationship that if ignored can become great obstacles .
- Do not just say “do not do something ” if you can add “but you do that.”
- Do not call them “tantrum” when it’s just things that disturb.
- Do not stop whatever the children do without giving them a notice.
- Do not “bring” walking the baby, but go for a walk “with” him/her.
- Feel free to make exceptions to the rules .
- Do not make fun of the children and not do sarcasm: laugh ” with them ” and not of “them.”
- Do not exibit the children to the others and not make them a toy.
- Do not believe the children understand what you say just for the fact that you understand them.
- Keep your promises and do not make them when you know you do not keep them.
- Do not lie and do not escape the questions.
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