We are emotional worried

One of the reasons we often continue to persevere in habits and behaviors that we consider wrong depends on our emotional fear. It’s certainly easier and less demanding to be dominated by the desire to complain that happens when we repeat the classic phrase: “I knew it would be ended in this way.” We persist to defend ourselves by saying that we do not know what to do, it’s the fault of someone else or of bad luck that works against us or the fact that it is true that there is no other solution. These thoughts are commons and it is easy to fall down and they serve to mask our deepest fears. When the athletes commit the same mistake in a repetitive way, I often say to do something different, without being worried about the outcome, in the worst case they will commit another mistake but at least it will be different. To justify this lack of initiative we hide in saying “and if not okay?” More rarely we think that if it is not okay we will try to find the solution. This is because we are emotionally scared by the change, the more I feel the need ,the greater is the tendency to hide behind the reasoning. It’s important to learn how to talk with ourselves, asking what holds us back from changing a behavior or an idea and what we fear it could happen. We must never stop this dialogue, we are the main coach of ourselves. This quest for optimal emotional condition must occur not only in competition but also in training, because learning is a form of stress that gives rise to all forms of emotions from pleasure to displeasure, pride to shame and we must be able to manage for improve even more in the knowledge of ourselves.